Confidence and the Courage to Take Action
There is an important relationship
between confidence and courage? Have you ever felt that a lack of confidence was holding you back from living up to your true potential?
When you think of reaching out for your greatest goals and dreams, do you fear
that you won’t have what it takes? Courage is one way to overcome feelings of
low confidence, but what kind of courage are we talking about? We’ll get to
that in a moment.
First, I just want to say that if
you find yourself struggling with confidence, don’t be too quick to assume that
your feelings are based on any kind of personal inadequacy. There are many
reasons why confidence is such an issue in people’s lives, and a lot of them
have to do with conditioning. In many ways our society teaches us to doubt
ourselves. It’s all part of the conditioning process that is designed to make
us dependent rather than independent.
Don’t
be afraid of your own greatness
I personally know quite a few people
who have had the courage to push forward toward their dreams even when they
didn’t feel especially confident. You know what happened? Not only did they
make amazing progress, but they were also able to build their confidence along the way.
There is something we can learn from
this. Taking action is one of the most effective ways to conquer self-doubt. There is power in doing. Taking action is how we prove to
ourselves that our lack of confidence was based on perception, not reality.
Your personal greatness lies beyond the wall of low self-confidence. Do you have the courage to start climbing that wall?
Where
did the wall of low confidence come from?
Our social structure is actually designed
to produce people who undervalue their own abilities. Our children are taught
to look to external sources for validation that they are worthwhile human beings. They grow up
believing that their personal value depends on the approval of other people along with things
like grades, looks, and being friends with the right people.
Why is going to school about
learning to regurgitate useless information to get a good grade on tests that
are meaningless? Wouldn’t it be better to learn creative thinking and problem
solving? What do you think happens to an extremely creative child who gets a D
grade on his report card while those who are much less creative are getting A’s
and B’s? Lack of confidence and a low sense of self-worth, that’s what happens. They
are punished emotionally for their creativity. They are rewarded for
conformity.
What do you think happens to the
employee who comes up with a brilliant way to reorganize his employers business
and then gets fired for making his boss look bad? Meanwhile, his less motivated
coworker is promoted because he panders to his boss. Again, confidence is
squashed and creativity is stifled.
Why
are we sending mixed signals?
It’s interesting to note that the
same society that seems to discourage creativity outside the box also honors
those who display this quality. From Henry Ford to Bill Gates, those with the
confidence and courage to follow through on their dreams have been honored. Do
you think famous people like these ever suffered from self-doubt or a lack of
confidence? Maybe, but even if they did, they never let it stand in their way
and neither should you. They had the courage to take action and the rest is
history.
Did you know that Thomas Edison,
Walt Disney, and Albert Einstein didn’t do well in school? These are famous,
highly honored individuals who had the courage to follow their creative dreams
regardless of popular opinion, even in the face of ridicule. They mustered up
the courage to take action and overcome self-doubt.
What
can we learn from this?
It’s perfectly normal to harbor
feelings of self-doubt considering how most of us were raised. These feelings
can be overcome, and taking action toward your dreams is a big step in the
right direction. You need to believe, really believe, that there is something
wonderfully unique and valuable about you and your creative abilities. You also
need to recognize that it will take some courage to prove that to yourself. If
you have the courage to take action, confidence will follow.
I want to encourage you to push
beyond the limits of self-doubt. I want to encourage you to expand your beliefs
about what you are capable of, so that you can discover the personal greatness
you were born for. I am asking you to give yourself permission to become the best
possible version of you, and then to take action in the direction of your
dreams.
If you do that, you will soon
discover that there’s no more room in your life for self-doubt. You will feel
confident in your ability to be yourself, and that is the most rewarding thing
any of us can ever be.
Arti Kotak.............
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